94. Parenthood in the Age of Fear

Do worries about your kids’ safety dominate your parenting choices? How often do you feel pressured to make parenting choices as a result of judgment from others? We are parenting in an age of overwhelming fear and constant judgment. Understanding how we got here, what the dangers really are (and are not), and how we can parent more courageously and wisely, can help us to better navigate parenting in the modern age.

In this episode, Kim Brooks, author of Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, joins Yael and offers deep wisdom in parenting well in the current cultural climate. 

Listen and discover:

‧ Why parenting culture has devolved into fear

‧ What some of the important dangers are, and which common worries are not worthy of the attention we give them

‧ Why we judge parents, particularly mothers, so harshly

‧ How to become a more brave and effective parent in this cultural milieu

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93. Effective Weight Loss with Dr. Evan Forman

If you struggle with maintaining a healthy weight, it’s not your fault. Evolutionary biology, our obeseogenic environment, and psychological barriers make weight loss challenging. In this episode, Dr. Evan Forman, a senior researcher and expert on obesity, offers cutting edge strategies that incorporate acceptance-based and behavioral skills to change your eating behaviors for good.

Listen And Learn:

‧ Change your relationship with shame, stress, and other emotions that drive overeating and under exercising

‧ Not waste your resources fighting what you cannot control

‧ How psychological acceptance enhances self-monitoring of food intake and weight

‧ How to sustain motivation by clarifying values and cultivating willingness

‧ Strategies to enhance stability and habit formation to lose and maintain weight loss 

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92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe

Is your marriage rewarding or is it feeing a bit mundane? Has sex become lifeless or non-existent? Do you miss the person you used to be before marriage? It is common for most  long-term relationships to hit a “rough patch” during the mid-life years. What does it take to weather the rough patch and end up with a supportive, lasting marriage? 

In this episode, author and couples therapist Dr. Daphne de Marneffe discuss her new book, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, with Yael. Daphne offers us wisdom in overcoming marital challenges, Including challenges in our sexual relationships. Listen and discover new and helpful ways to understand and engage in your marriage!

Listen to hear more about:

‧ Why rough patches are inevitable in long-term committed relationships

‧ Why sex matters but at times is so challenging during the long haul

‧ Ways to approach differences in sexual desire

‧ Whether or not to worry about fantasies and crushes outside the marriage

‧ The difference between secrecy and privacy in marriage

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91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews

Disability is an experience that millions of people have, and yet it is often overlooked in discussions related to diversity and inclusivity. Today Debbie talks with Dr. Erin Andrews, a rehab psychologist and advocate for disabilities rights, about: 

· Why you should #SayTheWord Disability

· How our attitudes related to Disability can contribute to stigma and shame

· Disability culture, and models of Disability

· Disability issues related to parenting and children

· How we could do better, and why we need to! 

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90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy

Our human brains have evolved to be quite “tricky.“ They have the capacity to provide compassionate caring and also callous destruction.  Dr. Paul Gilbert offers hope: “We get to decide which evolved part of us runs the show.” In this interview, Dr. Gilbert, father of Compassion Focused Therapy, discusses “caring psychology” — a psychology that integrates evolution science, attachment theory, mindfulness, neuroscience, and Jungian archetypes. This approach offers a coherent model to alleviate human suffering. 

Listen and Learn:

‧ How our tricky brains are a mismatch for our modern day environment 

‧ The difference between seeking safety and feeling safe

‧ Why our minds loop and what to do about it

‧ Caring psychology and hope for our planet

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88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin

Do you set unrealistically high expectations for yourself and others? Are you goal driven, always busy, and have a hard time relaxing? Do you avoid making mistakes? And when you do, do you dwell on them? If so, you may be a perfectionist. . . 

Underneath perfectionism is a desire for approval and to connect. Yet, perfectionists often find themselves disconnected from their values and fearing of other’s judgment. In this episode, Diana interviews Sharon Martin, LCSW, expert on perfectionism, about the underpinnings of perfectionism and CBT strategies to let go of your self-critic and find more balance.

Listen and Learn:

‧ the key signs of perfectionism

‧ how and why perfectionism develops

‧ the dark side of perfectionism

‧ strategies to unhook from and challenge perfectionism thinking

‧ CBT techniques to change perfectionistic patterns

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87. Cribsheet with Dr. Emily Oster

Dr. Emily Oster joins Yael to discuss her new book, Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, From Birth to Preschool. Emily discusses how data and decision-making strategies can guide better and more relaxed parenting during the early years of parenthood. Join us to discover reassuring ideas and practices to address the biggest and most anxiety-provoking questions you have about parenting.

Listen to hear more about:

‧A two-step approach to making good parenting choices (hint—scientific findings and your personal preferences both matter!)

‧Whether breast is really best (or whether we should give it a rest)

‧What science (versus your judgy neighbor) says about sleep training, location, and position

‧Does working outside the home negatively impact your children?

‧How to make good choices for childcare without losing your mind

‧The best parenting advice Emily ever received

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86. Mom Brain with Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco

Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco joins Yael for a conversation about how evidence-based psychology can help moms deal more effectively with stress. If you, too, have complicated feelings about being #grateful and/or wanting to sell your child to the highest bidder, join us for a conversation about managing the emotional challenges of parenthood.

Listen to discover:

· The normal range of maternal emotions

· How to recruit helpful support

· How to clarify your values as a parent

· Strategies for better self-care

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