90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy

Our human brains have evolved to be quite “tricky.“ They have the capacity to provide compassionate caring and also callous destruction.  Dr. Paul Gilbert offers hope: “We get to decide which evolved part of us runs the show.” In this interview, Dr. Gilbert, father of Compassion Focused Therapy, discusses “caring psychology” — a psychology that integrates evolution science, attachment theory, mindfulness, neuroscience, and Jungian archetypes. This approach offers a coherent model to alleviate human suffering. 

Listen and Learn:

‧ How our tricky brains are a mismatch for our modern day environment 

‧ The difference between seeking safety and feeling safe

‧ Why our minds loop and what to do about it

‧ Caring psychology and hope for our planet

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88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin

Do you set unrealistically high expectations for yourself and others? Are you goal driven, always busy, and have a hard time relaxing? Do you avoid making mistakes? And when you do, do you dwell on them? If so, you may be a perfectionist. . . 

Underneath perfectionism is a desire for approval and to connect. Yet, perfectionists often find themselves disconnected from their values and fearing of other’s judgment. In this episode, Diana interviews Sharon Martin, LCSW, expert on perfectionism, about the underpinnings of perfectionism and CBT strategies to let go of your self-critic and find more balance.

Listen and Learn:

‧ the key signs of perfectionism

‧ how and why perfectionism develops

‧ the dark side of perfectionism

‧ strategies to unhook from and challenge perfectionism thinking

‧ CBT techniques to change perfectionistic patterns

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87. Cribsheet with Dr. Emily Oster

Dr. Emily Oster joins Yael to discuss her new book, Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, From Birth to Preschool. Emily discusses how data and decision-making strategies can guide better and more relaxed parenting during the early years of parenthood. Join us to discover reassuring ideas and practices to address the biggest and most anxiety-provoking questions you have about parenting.

Listen to hear more about:

‧A two-step approach to making good parenting choices (hint—scientific findings and your personal preferences both matter!)

‧Whether breast is really best (or whether we should give it a rest)

‧What science (versus your judgy neighbor) says about sleep training, location, and position

‧Does working outside the home negatively impact your children?

‧How to make good choices for childcare without losing your mind

‧The best parenting advice Emily ever received

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86. Mom Brain with Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco

Dr. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco joins Yael for a conversation about how evidence-based psychology can help moms deal more effectively with stress. If you, too, have complicated feelings about being #grateful and/or wanting to sell your child to the highest bidder, join us for a conversation about managing the emotional challenges of parenthood.

Listen to discover:

· The normal range of maternal emotions

· How to recruit helpful support

· How to clarify your values as a parent

· Strategies for better self-care

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85. Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West

Having emotions is part of being human. At times we may find emotions overwhelming or act ways that are out of alignment with our values when we are emotionally triggered. In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Aprilia West about how to increase our emotion efficacy and why it matters.

Listen and learn:

‧ Why we are so different in how we experience emotions

‧ Skills needed for emotion efficacy

‧ How to surf an emotion wave

‧ What Diana is overwhelmed by this week and how to use emotion efficacy skills to help

‧ The components of Emotion Efficacy Training

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84. Courageous Conversations About Childhood Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower

April is Child Abuse Prevention month, and in this episode Debbie talks with Feather Berkower, a leading expert in sexual assault prevention. Feather has been on the podcast before (Episode 19: Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse), and today we delve deeper into how to have uncomfortable conversations, with both adults and children, to promote sexual abuse prevention.

We learn:

· How to talk to children about sex and body parts in an open, developmentally-appropriate way

· What to say to an adult whose behavior with your child makes you uncomfortable

· A leading expert’s opinion about sleepovers, play dates, and online safety

· The difference between normal sexual play between children and sexual abuse

· Ways to encouraging children to tell if abuse occurs, and how to talk to children after a disclosure of abuse

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83. The Tao of Work and Family

In this episode, Yael is joined for a discussion of Taoism by What’s This Tao All About podcast hosts, Tod Perry and Dr. Carl Totton. Join us for a lively discussion about how ancient Taoist wisdom can help us find greater balance between work and family roles.

Listen and learn:

‧ New ways to think about the conflict between work and family roles

‧ How Taoists define yin and yang and how the balance of these forces support greater harmony

‧ How to find moments of quiet in the busyness of modern working parent life

‧ How Taoist principles can help us find greater happiness

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82. Clinician's Corner: Therapist Self-Doubt with Jim Lucas

As therapists, we may sometimes doubt whether our skills are good enough to help our clients. Surprisingly, self-doubt may actually be useful, when used courageously as a tool for improvement. In this episode, Debbie speaks with Jim Lucas, a therapist in the UK who specializes in training and supporting mental health professionals. They discuss:

‧ The upside of self-doubt

‧ The surprising relationship between therapist self-doubt and client outcomes 

‧ Balancing how to find self-compassion with the courage to improve your work 

‧ A brief self-inquiry exercise that can be used to foster healthy therapist self-doubt

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