96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado

Discussions of diversity issues are more important than ever. And yet, conversations about these topics can be difficult, polarizing, and ineffective, leading to anger and hurt on both sides.

In this episode, Debbie interviews Dr. Anatasia Kim and Dr. Alicia del Prado about their new book, It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability, and Gender in a Polarized World. Drs. Kim and del Prado offer a glimpse into their practical eight-step approach, the Kim Constructive Conversations Model. This approach will help listeners get to that important next level in difficult conversations, by talking in an authentic and straightforward way about issues related to culture and diversity. 

If you’ve ever had discussions about diversity issues with co-workers, family, or friends that led to anger or frustration, this episode is for you! 

Listen and Learn:

·Why conversations about diversity issues can be so painful and difficult. 

·Why we might sometimes choose not to speak up about diversity issues, and why sometimes it’s worth the effort. 

·How values-guided conversations can promote healing.

·How to set an effective tone in a conversation, and how to raise difficult issues while maintaining the relationship.

·How to respond to valid emotions that may arise (like fear and anger), without losing effectiveness. 

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95. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins

Racism is a public health crisis with deep, ongoing negative impacts on psychological and physical health. In this episode, Dr. Kristee Haggins, an African centered psychologist, discusses how to support healing racial trauma. Dr. Haggins describes how black people can connect with the truth of their history, cultivate healing, and make choices that are good for themselves, their families, and larger communities. Dr. Haggins also offers recommendations for the work that those who do not identify as black can do to promote racial healing and change. 

Listen and Learn:

‧How do you know if you or someone you care about is experiencing racial trauma and stress? 

‧ Effective healing and self-care practices that black communities are using to heal together

‧ Internal and collective “work” white and other non-black people can do to promote systematic and grassroot change

‧ Ways in which mental health professionals can better meet the needs of black and other diverse communities 

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94. Parenthood in the Age of Fear

Do worries about your kids’ safety dominate your parenting choices? How often do you feel pressured to make parenting choices as a result of judgment from others? We are parenting in an age of overwhelming fear and constant judgment. Understanding how we got here, what the dangers really are (and are not), and how we can parent more courageously and wisely, can help us to better navigate parenting in the modern age.

In this episode, Kim Brooks, author of Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, joins Yael and offers deep wisdom in parenting well in the current cultural climate. 

Listen and discover:

‧ Why parenting culture has devolved into fear

‧ What some of the important dangers are, and which common worries are not worthy of the attention we give them

‧ Why we judge parents, particularly mothers, so harshly

‧ How to become a more brave and effective parent in this cultural milieu

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93. Effective Weight Loss with Dr. Evan Forman

If you struggle with maintaining a healthy weight, it’s not your fault. Evolutionary biology, our obeseogenic environment, and psychological barriers make weight loss challenging. In this episode, Dr. Evan Forman, a senior researcher and expert on obesity, offers cutting edge strategies that incorporate acceptance-based and behavioral skills to change your eating behaviors for good.

Listen And Learn:

‧ Change your relationship with shame, stress, and other emotions that drive overeating and under exercising

‧ Not waste your resources fighting what you cannot control

‧ How psychological acceptance enhances self-monitoring of food intake and weight

‧ How to sustain motivation by clarifying values and cultivating willingness

‧ Strategies to enhance stability and habit formation to lose and maintain weight loss 

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92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe

Is your marriage rewarding or is it feeing a bit mundane? Has sex become lifeless or non-existent? Do you miss the person you used to be before marriage? It is common for most  long-term relationships to hit a “rough patch” during the mid-life years. What does it take to weather the rough patch and end up with a supportive, lasting marriage? 

In this episode, author and couples therapist Dr. Daphne de Marneffe discuss her new book, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, with Yael. Daphne offers us wisdom in overcoming marital challenges, Including challenges in our sexual relationships. Listen and discover new and helpful ways to understand and engage in your marriage!

Listen to hear more about:

‧ Why rough patches are inevitable in long-term committed relationships

‧ Why sex matters but at times is so challenging during the long haul

‧ Ways to approach differences in sexual desire

‧ Whether or not to worry about fantasies and crushes outside the marriage

‧ The difference between secrecy and privacy in marriage

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91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews

Disability is an experience that millions of people have, and yet it is often overlooked in discussions related to diversity and inclusivity. Today Debbie talks with Dr. Erin Andrews, a rehab psychologist and advocate for disabilities rights, about: 

· Why you should #SayTheWord Disability

· How our attitudes related to Disability can contribute to stigma and shame

· Disability culture, and models of Disability

· Disability issues related to parenting and children

· How we could do better, and why we need to! 

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90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy

Our human brains have evolved to be quite “tricky.“ They have the capacity to provide compassionate caring and also callous destruction.  Dr. Paul Gilbert offers hope: “We get to decide which evolved part of us runs the show.” In this interview, Dr. Gilbert, father of Compassion Focused Therapy, discusses “caring psychology” — a psychology that integrates evolution science, attachment theory, mindfulness, neuroscience, and Jungian archetypes. This approach offers a coherent model to alleviate human suffering. 

Listen and Learn:

‧ How our tricky brains are a mismatch for our modern day environment 

‧ The difference between seeking safety and feeling safe

‧ Why our minds loop and what to do about it

‧ Caring psychology and hope for our planet

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